Most Muslim women can attest to the fact that what we do and how we carry ourselves when outside of the home speaks far louder than anything we say. How many of us can think back and remember either a complete stranger, family member, or someone on the job complimenting us on our modest dress, and demeanor, and voluntary compliance with the tenants of Islamic modesty? And there are some that say we influenced them to take Shahadah, or to increase their practice of Islam-Alhamdulillah! Unfortunately however, almost as often, we hear the opposite. Someone asks you if Muslim women are “supposed to wear that”, or they point to the incorrect adab of a few Muslimahs to justify them not entering Islam.  The nonverbal messages we give everyday, even when doing something as simple as going to the market is a powerful form of Dawah. Now, how does summer tie in? We all know that summer can sometimes present a challenge for a Muslimah if she is not in a high state of Iman, or is new to the religion. During this time especially, Shaytan works to plant doubts in our minds causing us to question the extent to which we cover and can make us feel pressured to conform to the societal norm. Some may just not understand the issue of Hijab fully, or not be equipped with the information or confidence needed to have the proper defense. We will all be tested at times, it’s all about how you respond.

At a recent doctor’s visit, a nurse said to me “You poor thing, you have to wear all those clothes in this heat.” I quickly, but politely corrected her perception of “a poor oppressed woman.” I explained to her the reasons why Muslimahs cover, and that it is because our religion holds women in the highest esteem, and as the true jewels of this earth, we are to be gazed upon by only a select few. I went on to explain that in today’s society it is also a protection for us and that most Muslim women voluntarily cover without the influence of a man. Alhamdulillah, by the end of the conversation, she was agreeing with me and lamenting the scandalous clothing and attitudes of the teenagers in her neighborhood. This was a perfect example. Her seeing me in full garb in 90 degree weather prompted a conversation that gave her a better understanding of Islam- this is true Dawa. In another situation, while shopping in a women’s boutique, I declined to use the dressing room , because it didn’t provide adequate privacy. After this, I was approached by a young lady who worked in the store and she said that she had studied Islam some, but was scared to enter Islam because of the dress restrictions and the perception that men have “total control” over your life. It was clear that she had seen some bad examples that had incorrectly influenced her perception of Islam, and she felt that once she accepted the religion, she would be pressured to go from one extreme to another extreme immediately. However, by the end of the conversation, she seemed much more upbeat, and promised to call if she had any more questions.

The point is when you show true adherence to covering modestly, you are more likely to positively influence someone’s perception of Islam. The opposite is also true. There are situations where a sister may have been Muslim for quite a while, but takes the issue of covering herself properly lightly. For those who may see her with her Khimar to the back (if on at all), tight jeans, and a fitted shirt, this is a form of Dawah as well.  I am not speaking of those who may be new to Islam, and may still be learning. There are also those who may not yet have had a chance to purchase Islamic garments after taking Shahadah. I am referencing those of us who know better, but may be struggling against our Nafs (soul) regarding this issue. If you need something to help you win the struggle, think about the fact that your actions influence others, whether you like it or not. By not doing what we know to be right, and falling victim to peer pressure, the media, or our own indecision, we are sending conflicting messages to our daughters, as well as those who may be considering Islam. 

So, with that being said. I have a dare for all of my sisters this summer. As a matter of fact, it’s a double dog dare--remember those? This is one that may challenge some more than others, but can only lead to good. Make a vow this summer to consciously examine your attitude towards Hijab and the choices you make every morning. Take a look at just one aspect- The way you pin your Khimar, or the length of your shirt. You can also focus on your choice of colors, or the option of over garments. Choose just one, and make a conscious effort to improve. At the same time, reach out to others. We have to stop looking at someone and whispering under our breath “ I don’t believe she has that on”, and really want for our sisters what we want for ourselves. We need to be comfortable approaching (and being approached) sisters in KINDNESS, while using HIQMA(wisdom), educate and be a support for each other in the way we present ourselves in public. And if approached with a reminder from your sister in Islam, accept it as a gift, for verily the reminder benefits the believer. If we don’t stick together and uplift each other, who will?  Use this summer as an opportunity to renew your Hijab, knowing that Allah is ever watchful, but there are others watching as well.

- Khadijah Abdus-Sabur, a Muslimah professional and mother of two, is the daughter of Imam Aqil Abdus-Sabur and the wife of Imam Idris Abdullah

 

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