MATE SELECTION APPLICATION
“Let those who find not the wherewithal for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah gives them means out of His grace...”
Memo of Understanding: This page is for Muslims seeking to get registered for marriage with UMM. Completing this form will place you in our data base of eligible people to become married. UMM agrees to facilitate the process of a wholesome and halal pursuit of marriage by which both parties can find suitable mates. In no way can UMM guarantee that finding a mate will be successful and that any union resulting will be successful either.
Making sure that Muslims are well-matched to their spouses is one of the most important and potentially difficult functions in the Muslim community. The men and women seeking marriage must have their priorities straight and be clear on what characteristics are most important to be sought in a spouse in order to have a successful marriage. There are many characteristics that are important in a husband or a wife but some are much more important than others. Overemphasizing the wrong qualities can lead to disaster down the road just as being neglectful of certain considerations can do likewise. When we come to understand the goals and priorities of marriage in Islam, we may be guided to the Islamic methodology of seeking marriage in Islam and stop blindly following modern and often ignorant concepts that emphasize the importance of "getting to know each other" which in reality contribute nothing to and more often sabotage a successful marriage.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us in many hadith about the various characteristics which one looks for in a spouse and their relative importance and which ones determine success insha'Allah and Allah's blessing on a marriage. Among those hadith:
"A woman is married for her deen, her wealth or her beauty. You must go for the one with deen, may your hands be in the dust! (if you fail to heed)" [Muslim]
"Choose carefully for your seed. Marry those who are equivalent (or "qualified") and give to them in marriage." Ibn Majah and others and it is sahih.
For Brothers seeking marriage
For Sisters seeking marriage